\nChamin Ajjan, CEO \u015fi Director Clinic al Chamin Ajjan Psychotherapy, a oferit o perspectiv\u0103 proasp\u0103t\u0103 asupra modului \u00een care putem face schimb\u0103ri durabile \u00een via\u0163a noastr\u0103, \u00eentr-un articol publicat recent de platforma CNBC. Ajjan, membr\u0103 a consiliului National Social Anxiety Center, a studiat la University of California, Berkeley, \u015fi la Columbia University School of Social Work. .<\/em><\/p>\n \nEa observ\u0103 c\u0103 rezolu\u0163iile sunt adesea vagi \u015fi deconectate de valorile noastre profunde, motiv pentru care e\u015fueaz\u0103 s\u0103 genereze angajamentul emo\u0163ional necesar pentru o transformare real\u0103. Manifestarea, pe de alt\u0103 parte, nu este despre dorin\u0163e nerealiste \u015fi a\u015fteptarea unui miracol, ci un proces deliberat care aliniaz\u0103 valorile, inten\u0163iile \u015fi ac\u0163iunile noastre.<\/p>\n \nAjjan ofer\u0103 cinci pa\u015fi practici pentru a transforma abordarea noastr\u0103 \u015fi a trece de la rezolu\u0163ii ineficiente la manifestarea unor schimb\u0103ri semnificative, indiferent de momentul anului.<\/p>\n \nPe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce un an se \u00eencheie \u015fi altul \u00eencepe, este firesc s\u0103 ne imagin\u0103m ce ne dorim pentru viitor. Dar \u015ftim cu to\u0163ii cum se termin\u0103 de obicei povestea: p\u00e2n\u0103 \u00een februarie, majoritatea rezolu\u0163iilor de Anul Nou sunt abandonate, l\u0103s\u00e2ndu-ne descuraja\u0163i \u015fi \u00eentreb\u00e2ndu-ne de ce ne-am mai deranjat.<\/p>\n \nA\u015fa nu e un mod potrivit de a \u00eencepe ceva nou! Ca psihoterapeut cu peste 20 de ani de experien\u0163\u0103, ea crede c\u0103 problema const\u0103 \u00een abordarea noastr\u0103. Rezolu\u0163iile tind s\u0103 fie vagi, nerealiste \u015fi deconectate de valorile noastre profunde, nereu\u015find astfel s\u0103 creeze angajamentul emo\u0163ional necesar pentru o schimbare real\u0103.<\/p>\n \nAnul acesta, \u00een loc s\u0103 face\u0163i rezolu\u0163ii, \u00eencerca\u0163i ceva diferit \u2014 manifesta\u0163i schimb\u0103rile pe care dori\u0163i s\u0103 le face\u0163i \u00een via\u0163a voastr\u0103 prin pa\u015fi simpli \u015fi practici:<\/p>\n \nRezolu\u0163iile se concentreaz\u0103 adesea pe rezultate superficiale, precum \u201es\u0103 pierd 5 kilograme\u201d sau \u201es\u0103 economisesc 10.000 de lei.\u201d De\u015fi aceste obiective pot suna productive, ele nu au o profunzime emo\u0163ional\u0103. Manifestarea \u00eencepe prin identificarea valorilor voastre de baz\u0103.<\/p>\n \n\u00centreba\u0163i-v\u0103: Ce \u00eemi pas\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat? De ce vreau aceast\u0103 schimbare?<\/p>\n \nDac\u0103 valoarea voastr\u0103 este s\u0103n\u0103tatea, de exemplu, inten\u0163ia ar putea fi s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eengriji\u0163i corpul printr-o alimenta\u0163ie echilibrat\u0103 \u015fi mi\u015fcare care v\u0103 face pl\u0103cere. De acolo, crea\u0163i obiective care sunt S.M.A.R.T. \u2014 specifice, m\u0103surabile, realizabile, relevante \u015fi \u00eencadrate \u00een timp, cum ar fi \u201evoi face o plimbare de 30 de minute de trei ori pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103.\u201d<\/p>\n \nCultura noastr\u0103 glorific\u0103 \u201elupta continu\u0103,\u201d echival\u00e2nd adesea valoarea noastr\u0103 ca oameni cu c\u00e2t de mult realiz\u0103m \u015fi ce sacrific\u0103m pentru a ajunge acolo. Rezolu\u0163iile tind s\u0103 adauge sarcini pe lista noastr\u0103 deja plin\u0103, cre\u00e2nd presiune \u00een loc de u\u015furare.<\/p>\n \n\u00cen loc s\u0103 ad\u0103uga\u0163i pe lista voastr\u0103 lung\u0103 de lucruri de f\u0103cut, \u00eencerca\u0163i s\u0103 face\u0163i o list\u0103 de renun\u0163\u0103ri. Identifica\u0163i obiceiuri, g\u00e2nduri sau angajamente care nu v\u0103 mai sunt de folos. Poate trebuie s\u0103 \u00eenceta\u0163i s\u0103 spune\u0163i \u201eda\u201d la toate sau s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eenvinov\u0103\u0163i\u0163i pentru e\u015fecuri percepute.<\/p>\n \nRenun\u0163area elibereaz\u0103 spa\u0163iu pentru a v\u0103 concentra energia pe ceea ce conteaz\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat.<\/p>\n \nCrea\u0163i o imagine clar\u0103 a ceea ce v\u0103 dori\u0163i. Aloca\u0163i timp pentru a scrie \u00eentr-un jurnal, a vizualiza sau chiar a crea un panou de viziune care reflect\u0103 valorile \u015fi inten\u0163iile voastre. \u0162in\u00e2nd viziunea \u00een centrul aten\u0163iei, \u00eent\u0103ri\u0163i conexiunea emo\u0163ional\u0103 cu schimb\u0103rile pe care dori\u0163i s\u0103 le face\u0163i.<\/p>\n \nRezolu\u0163iile seteaz\u0103 adesea o destina\u0163ie fix\u0103, cum ar fi \u201es\u0103 alerg un maraton\u201d sau \u201es\u0103 \u00eemi achit datoriile.\u201d Dar concentrarea rigid\u0103 pe rezultate poate duce la o g\u00e2ndire de tip \u201etotul sau nimic\u201d \u2014 un mod distorsionat de a g\u00e2ndi \u00een care orice e\u015fec pare final. De exemplu, dac\u0103 a\u0163i planificat s\u0103 economisi\u0163i 2.000 de lei, dar a\u0163i reu\u015fit doar 1.500, s-ar putea s\u0103 percepe\u0163i tot efortul ca un e\u015fec.<\/p>\n \n\u00cen schimb, \u00eentreba\u0163i-v\u0103: Ce pot face ast\u0103zi pentru a m\u0103 alinia inten\u0163iilor mele? Aceast\u0103 abordare creeaz\u0103 impuls \u015fi permite flexibilitate, ajut\u00e2ndu-v\u0103 s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2ne\u0163i angajat chiar dac\u0103 planurile evolueaz\u0103.<\/p>\n \n\u00cemp\u0103r\u0163i\u0163i obiectivele \u00een sarcini mici \u015fi gestionabile \u015fi s\u0103rb\u0103tori\u0163i fiecare pas \u00eenainte. Dac\u0103 inten\u0163ia voastr\u0103 este s\u0103 cultiva\u0163i mindfulness, o singur\u0103 medita\u0163ie de cinci minute este un succes demn de recunoscut. Victoriile mici construiesc \u00eencredere \u015fi men\u0163in motiva\u0163ia vie.<\/p>\n \nAborda\u0163i-v\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103toria dintr-un loc de compasiune \u015fi empatie fa\u0163\u0103 de sine, mai degrab\u0103 dec\u00e2t dintr-unul de critic\u0103 aspr\u0103. Cercet\u0103rile arat\u0103 c\u0103 tratarea cu bl\u00e2nde\u0163e de sine favorizeaz\u0103 rezilien\u0163a, motiva\u0163ia \u015fi schimbarea durabil\u0103 mult mai eficient dec\u00e2t judecata sau autocritica.<\/p>\n \nManifestarea func\u0163ioneaz\u0103 pentru c\u0103 se conecteaz\u0103 cu ceea ce este semnificativ pentru voi, implic\u0103 emo\u0163iile voastre \u015fi se concentreaz\u0103 pe ac\u0163iuni care sunt at\u00e2t inten\u0163ionate, c\u00e2t \u015fi realizabile.<\/p>\n \nSpre deosebire de rezolu\u0163ii, care adesea par reguli autoimpuse, manifestarea ar trebui s\u0103 fie o experien\u0163\u0103 care v\u0103 \u00eemputernice\u015fte. Nu v\u0103 restr\u00e2nge\u0163i, ci crea\u0163i \u2014 face\u0163i progrese c\u0103tre o via\u0163\u0103 care se simte autentic\u0103 \u015fi \u00eemplinitoare.<\/p>\n \nAceast\u0103 schimbare de perspectiv\u0103 poate transforma modul \u00een care aborda\u0163i nu doar Anul Nou, ci orice obiectiv pe care vi-l propune\u0163i. Nu ave\u0163i nevoie de un plan perfect \u015fi, cu siguran\u0163\u0103, nu trebuie s\u0103 a\u015ftepta\u0163i miezul nop\u0163ii de 1 ianuarie pentru a \u00eencepe.<\/p>\n \nTot ce ave\u0163i nevoie este o inten\u0163ie clar\u0103, o conexiune cu valorile voastre \u015fi un angajament de a face c\u00e2te un pas pe r\u00e2nd.<\/p>\n \n <\/p>\n \n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Chamin Ajjan, CEO \u015fi Director Clinic al Chamin Ajjan Psychotherapy, a oferit o perspectiv\u0103 proasp\u0103t\u0103 asupra modului \u00een care putem face schimb\u0103ri durabile \u00een via\u0163a noastr\u0103, \u00eentr-un articol publicat recent de platforma CNBC. Ajjan, membr\u0103 a consiliului National Social Anxiety Center, a studiat la University of California, Berkeley, \u015fi la Columbia University School of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[510],"tags":[33108,32901,1179,7193,125,25099,23848,435,4895,10210],"class_list":["post-232923","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-actualitate","tag-abordare","tag-articol","tag-california","tag-carte","tag-ceo","tag-cnbc","tag-columbia","tag-consiliu","tag-schimbari","tag-succes"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/232923","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=232923"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/232923\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=232923"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=232923"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=232923"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\n1. Stabili\u0163i inten\u0163ii care se aliniaz\u0103 valorilor voastre<\/h3>\n
\n2. Concentra\u0163i-v\u0103 pe a elimina, nu doar pe a ad\u0103uga<\/h3>\n
\n3. Crea\u0163i o viziune care inspir\u0103<\/h3>\n
\n4. S\u0103rb\u0103tori\u0163i progresul, nu perfec\u0163iunea<\/h3>\n
\n5. Conduce\u0163i cu dragoste, nu cu judecat\u0103<\/h3>\n
\n\u201eNu ave\u0163i nevoie de un plan perfect\u201d<\/h3>\n