\nNu am \u00eent\u00e2lnit \u00eenc\u0103 o persoan\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat fericit\u0103 care s\u0103 nu fie m\u00e2ndr\u0103, \u00eentr-un fel sau altul. M\u00e2ndr\u0103 de munca sa, de realiz\u0103rile sale, de arta sa, de familie, de echipa sa \u2013 de impactul s\u0103u \u00een lume. Totu\u015fi, \u00een nara\u0163iunea curent\u0103, mai ales \u00een ultimii ani, evit\u0103m s\u0103 celebr\u0103m virtu\u0163ile m\u00e2ndriei.<\/p>\n
\nO asociem cu egoul \u2013 \u015fi \u201eegoul este du\u015fmanul\u201d, se spune. Modestia \u015fi moderarea par calea c\u0103tre salvare \u00een aceast\u0103 lume haotic\u0103, furioas\u0103 \u015fi polarizat\u0103. La urma urmei, nu este m\u00e2ndria unul dintre cele \u015fapte p\u0103cate, poate cel mai periculos dintre ele? M\u00e2ndria orbe\u015fte, r\u0103ne\u015fte, na\u015fte arogan\u0163\u0103, narcisism \u015fi l\u0103comie. Nu-i a\u015fa?
\nV\u0103 invit s\u0103 explor\u0103m mai profund acest subiect. Vreau s\u0103 sus\u0163inem argumentul pentru m\u00e2ndrie \u2013 dar pentru m\u00e2n-dria autentic\u0103.<\/p>\n
\n \nEste o opinie de si-ne exagerat\u0103, arogan\u0163\u0103, exces de \u00eencredere, complacere. Este vanitate, narcisism, o lips\u0103 de empatie \u015fi tendin\u0163a de a manipula. Termenul hubris vine din greac\u0103 \u2013 \u03a5\u03b2\u03c1\u03b9\u03c2 \u2013 \u015fi \u00eenseamn\u0103 \u201em\u00e2ndrie excesiv\u0103, care \u00eencalc\u0103 limitele umane\u201d, o insult\u0103 pedepsit\u0103 \u00eentotdeauna aspru de zei. Aceste dou\u0103 tipuri sunt emo\u0163ii foarte diferite. Prima este autentic\u0103, bazat\u0103 pe valori. A doua este fragil\u0103 \u2013 \u015fi periculoas\u0103. M\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 se bazeaz\u0103 pe adev\u0103r, hubrisul pe iluzie. Sugerez c\u0103 Egoul nu este du\u015fmanul. Egoul fragil, nesigur este. Dezvoltarea unui adult este despre construirea unui ego s\u0103n\u0103tos, bine adaptat. \u00centreaga noastr\u0103 c\u0103l\u0103torie de maturizare este despre acceptarea limitelor noastre, despre a dansa cu propriile noastre umbre \u015fi despre aprofundarea conexiunii noastre cu Cosmosul. Ca \u015fi \u00een cazul egoului nostru, solu\u0163ia nu este s\u0103 suprim\u0103m sau s\u0103 dizolv\u0103m m\u00e2ndria, ci s\u0103 o cultiv\u0103m corespunz\u0103tor. \nCa lideri, trebuie s\u0103 insufl\u0103m m\u00e2ndrie oamenilor no\u015ftri \u2013 dar cum?<\/p>\n \n \nM\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 provine \u00eentotdeauna din efort \u015fi dep\u0103\u015firea limitelor. Este, de obicei, un test pe care ni-l impunem nou\u0103 \u00een\u015fine: de a tr\u0103i \u015fi de a lucra \u00een aliniere cu cele mai autentice valori ale noastre. \u00centr-un moment de reflec\u0163ie, g\u00e2ndi\u0163i-v\u0103 cum: \n Nu am \u00eent\u00e2lnit \u00eenc\u0103 o persoan\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat fericit\u0103 care s\u0103 nu fie m\u00e2ndr\u0103, \u00eentr-un fel sau altul. M\u00e2ndr\u0103 de munca sa, de realiz\u0103rile sale, de arta sa, de familie, de echipa sa \u2013 de impactul s\u0103u \u00een lume. Totu\u015fi, \u00een nara\u0163iunea curent\u0103, mai ales \u00een ultimii ani, evit\u0103m s\u0103 celebr\u0103m virtu\u0163ile m\u00e2ndriei. O asociem […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[510,529,512],"tags":[52689,22012,54542,87,36002,59058],"class_list":["post-231542","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-actualitate","category-opinii","category-revista-bm","tag-harry-meintassis","tag-mandrie","tag-meintassis-partners","tag-opinie","tag-viciu","tag-virtute"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/231542","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=231542"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/231542\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=231542"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=231542"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=231542"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nM\u00e2ndrie autentic\u0103 vs. m\u00e2ndrie hubristic\u0103<\/strong>
\nPentru \u00eenceput, s\u0103 \u00een\u0163elegem natura uman\u0103. Suntem mai mult dec\u00e2t \u201ehomo economicus\u201d; dorim statut, glorie, pres-tigiu, apartenen\u0163\u0103 social\u0103. Suntem motiva\u0163i de iubire \u015fi m\u00e2ndrie; dar \u015fi de invidie \u015fi rivalitate. Aceasta este reali-tatea. Aceast\u0103 realizare ne va ajuta s\u0103 construim \u201ecazul m\u00e2ndriei\u201d. \u00cen cercetarea psihologic\u0103, m\u00e2ndria ia dou\u0103 forme: m\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 \u015fi m\u00e2ndria hubristic\u0103. M\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 este o emo\u0163ie pozitiv\u0103 care apare dup\u0103 realiz\u0103ri specifice, \u00eent\u0103rind sentimentul valorii de sine. Este o satisfac\u0163ie profund\u0103, un sens pentru o via\u0163\u0103 tr\u0103it\u0103 \u00eentr-un anu-mit fel, fiind c\u00e2t mai apropiat\u0103 de defini\u0163iile fericirii \u015fi satisfac\u0163iei de via\u0163\u0103.Psihologii evolu\u0163ioni\u015fti cred c\u0103 m\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 ne ajut\u0103 s\u0103 ne adapt\u0103m \u2013 pentru c\u0103 ne \u00eencurajeaz\u0103 s\u0103 abord\u0103m via\u0163a cu entuziasm \u015fi s\u0103 ajut\u0103m pe al\u0163ii. M\u00e2ndria hubristic\u0103, pe de alt\u0103 parte, apare f\u0103r\u0103 vreo realizare semnificativ\u0103 sau motiv justificat.<\/p>\n
\nMul\u0163i tineri se lupt\u0103 pentru c\u0103 le lipse\u015fte \u201em\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103\u201d \u00een via\u0163a lor. Energia lor brut\u0103 (\u015fi at\u00e2t de pre\u0163ioas\u0103) se irose\u015fte \u00een distrac\u0163ii interminabile \u015fi adesea lipsite de sens. Ei v\u0103d totul sumbru \u2013 \u201edac\u0103 lumea este \u00eempotriva no-astr\u0103 \u2013 atunci de ce s\u0103 ne mai deranj\u0103m?\u201d.<\/p>\n
\nHubrisul \u0163ip\u0103. M\u00e2ndria c\u00e2nt\u0103\u00e2<\/strong><\/p>\n
\n\u2026A\u0163i ales propria cale, indiferent de ce au crezut al\u0163ii \u2013 opusul hubrisului, care este un strig\u0103t de aten\u0163ie. A\u0163i construit o afacere, a\u0163i condus echipe, a\u0163i \u00eempins limitele, a\u0163i luat riscuri, a\u0163i c\u0103l\u0103torit \u00een teritorii necunoscute. A\u0163i creat ceva frumos, a\u0163i adus valoare, v-a\u0163i exprimat sufletul. A\u0163i fost amabil, dar nu a\u0163i permis s\u0103 fi\u0163i c\u0103lcat \u00een picioare. A\u0163i dat tot ce avea\u0163i mai bun, privi\u0163i via\u0163a direct \u00een ochi. C\u00e2nd totul p\u0103rea imposibil, c\u00e2nd obstacolele p\u0103reau de netrecut, a\u0163i perseverat. Nu v-a\u0163i abandonat complacen\u0163ei. Nu v-a\u0163i l\u0103udat c\u00e2nd a\u0163i c\u00e2\u015ftigat \u015fi a\u0163i pierdut cu onoare… A\u0163i servit o misiune mai mare dec\u00e2t voi \u00een\u015fiv\u0103, \u00eentreb\u00e2ndu-v\u0103 nu \u201eCe c\u00e2\u015ftig eu?\u201d, ci \u201eCum pot ajuta?\u201d. Pentru ca m\u00e2ndria s\u0103 fie autentic\u0103, trebuie s\u0103 sim\u0163im c\u0103 am c\u00e2\u015ftigat-o. Prin efort \u015fi sacrificiu.<\/p>\n
\nM\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 \u015fi umilin\u0163a nu sunt opuse<\/strong>
\nM\u00e2ndria ne umple paharul, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t acesta s\u0103 \u201erevarse\u201d generozitate \u015fi bun\u0103tate c\u0103tre al\u0163ii. Cum am putea d\u0103rui, dac\u0103 nu avem destul \u00een sufletele noastre? M\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 ne face mai umili, mai empatici. Aminti\u0163i-v\u0103 de C.S. Lewis: \u201eUmilin\u0163a nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 g\u00e2nde\u015fti mai pu\u0163in despre tine, ci s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u015fti la tine mai pu\u0163in\u201d. Adev\u0103rata m\u00e2-ndrie construie\u015fte \u00eencredere \u00een noi \u00een\u015fine \u2013 nu ne este team\u0103 s\u0103 fim provoca\u0163i; devenim ascult\u0103tori \u015fi \u00eenv\u0103\u0163\u0103tori mai buni. Ne recunoa\u015ftem calm limitele, ne deschidem ochii \u015fi apreciem valoarea altora. F\u0103r\u0103 m\u00e2ndrie, dezvolt\u0103m, involuntar, persoane nesigure, f\u0103r\u0103 scop, poate chiar resentimentare. F\u0103r\u0103 m\u00e2ndrie, nihilismul se strecoar\u0103. Tinerii se simt pierdu\u0163i. Via\u0163a poate aluneca periculos spre am\u0103r\u0103ciune \u015fi depresie. D\u0103m vina pe al\u0163ii, devenim cinici, sus-picio\u015fi, mici, pentru c\u0103 ne lipse\u015fte ceva profund \u00een interior. Compens\u0103m c\u0103ut\u00e2nd validare social\u0103, \u201elike-uri \u015fi vizual-iz\u0103ri\u201d. Ne tortur\u0103m psihologic cu compara\u0163ii sociale. Dar o persoan\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat m\u00e2ndr\u0103 nu are nimic de demon-strat, este confortabil\u0103 cu ea \u00eens\u0103\u015fi, sigur\u0103 pe sine. M\u00e2ndria nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 perfec\u0163iune. \u00censeamn\u0103 putere \u015fi centru. M\u00e2ndria construie\u015fte respect de sine. Nu este doar despre c\u00e2\u015ftig sau succes, ci despre cum ai jucat. Cum te-ai prezentat. Aceast\u0103 m\u00e2ndrie construie\u015fte \u00eencrederea de a continua s\u0103 fii cel mai bun ce po\u0163i fi. Este timpul s\u0103 tras\u0103m o linie clar\u0103 \u00eentre m\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 \u015fi hubris.
\nCum evit\u0103m hubrisul? \u00centreab\u0103-te:
\n\u2666\u009f Colaborez bine cu ceilal\u0163i sau fac totul despre mine?
\n\u009f\u2666 Sunt amenin\u0163at sau entuziasmat c\u00e2nd \u00eent\u00e2lnesc oameni inteligen\u0163i \u015fi competen\u0163i?
\n\u009f\u2666 \u00cemi actualizez convingerile pe m\u0103sur\u0103 ce lumea se schimb\u0103?
\n\u2666\u009f Sunt bun cu ceilal\u0163i, dar strict cu mine?
\n\u2666\u009f Cum reac\u0163ionez c\u00e2nd ob\u0163in o putere semnificativ\u0103?
\n\u2666\u009f Simt \u00eentotdeauna c\u0103 partea mea (sau grupul meu) are dreptate, iar ceilal\u0163i gre\u015fesc?
\nAdreseaz\u0103 aceste \u00eentreb\u0103ri \u015fi echipei tale.
\nM\u00e2ndria autentic\u0103 ne aprinde flac\u0103ra de a deveni mai buni, de a iubi mai mult, de a visa mai departe. Prin munca noastr\u0103. Prin muzica noastr\u0103. Prin luptele noastre. Prin exemplul personal. Ea ne motiveaz\u0103 s\u0103 fim cei mai buni, s\u0103 continu\u0103m s\u0103 mergem \u00eenainte, pentru a servi lumea cu m\u00e2ndrie. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"