{"id":171501,"date":"2019-04-30T11:12:43","date_gmt":"2019-04-30T11:12:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/?p=171501"},"modified":"2019-04-30T11:12:43","modified_gmt":"2019-04-30T11:12:43","slug":"cum-sa-ai-discutii-in-contradictoriu-fara-sa-te-certi-majoritatea-oamenilor-fac-doua-greseli-majore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/?p=171501","title":{"rendered":"Cum s\u0103 ai discu\u0163ii \u00een contradictoriu f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te cer\u0163i. Majoritatea oamenilor fac dou\u0103 gre\u015feli majore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\nNu este niciodat\u0103 confortabil s\u0103 fii de orice parte a unei conversa\u0163ii dificile &#8211; totu\u015fi, s\u0103 po\u0163i spune cuiva ve\u015fti nepl\u0103cute este o abilitate necesar\u0103, mai ales pentru liderii din mediul de business. Cheri Torres, un coach de leadership de business, autorul c\u0103r\u0163ii \u201eConversations Worth Having\u201d, spune c\u0103 exist\u0103 dou\u0103 mari gre\u015feli pe care le fac majoritatea oamenilor \u00eentr-o astfel de discu\u0163ie: o am\u00e2n\u0103 &#8211; ceea ce face ca de multe ori situa\u0163ia s\u0103 devin\u0103 \u015fi mai nepl\u0103cut\u0103 sau reac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 ia \u00een considerare perspectiva \u015fi ac\u0163iunile celuilalt.<br \/>\nPotrivit unui articol publicat de enterprisersproject.com exist\u0103 c\u00e2teva modalit\u0103\u0163i prin care s\u0103 transforma\u0163i abilitatea de a avea o discu\u0163ie dificil\u0103 \u00eentr-o competen\u0163\u0103 cheie:<\/p>\n<p>1. Asigura\u0163i-v\u0103 c\u0103 ve\u015ftile bune le contrabalanseaz\u0103 pe cele rele: de fiecare dat\u0103 c\u00e2nd vrei s\u0103 oferi feedback constructiv, trebuie s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 ai cel pu\u0163in 10 interac\u0163iuni anterioare \u00een care feedbackul este pozitiv.<br \/>\n2. Preg\u0103ti\u0163i-v\u0103 pentru discu\u0163ie: chiar dac\u0103 sunte\u0163i un manager experimentat, preg\u0103ti\u0163i-v\u0103 din timp pentru conversa\u0163ie \u015fi pentru posibilele reac\u0163ii ale celui cu care vre\u0163i s\u0103 ave\u0163i conversa\u0163ia.<br \/>\n3. Exersa\u0163i empatia: s\u0103 fii criticat aduce teama de a fi respins; \u00eenainte de conversa\u0163ie, \u00eencerca\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 pune\u0163i \u00een locul interlocutorului. Ce ar putea inhiba performan\u0163ele lor? Ce i-ar putea ajuta?<br \/>\n4. Evita\u0163i feedback-ul tip \u201esandvi\u015f\u201d: formula \u00een care oferi un compliment, critic\u0103, apoi un alt compliment &#8211; nu func\u0163ioneaz\u0103. Dac\u0103 fiecare conversa\u0163ie ar \u00eencepe astfel, angaja\u0163ii se vor g\u00e2ndi mereu c\u0103 ceva negativ este anun\u0163at de orice compliment.<br \/>\n5. O conversa\u0163ie negativ\u0103 poate fi orientat\u0103 \u00een sens pozitiv: dac\u0103 muta\u0163i concentrarea pe rezultatele pe care le dori\u0163i fa\u0163\u0103 de ceea ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 de fapt, ve\u0163i fi mai aproape de ceea ce v\u0103 dori\u0163i.<br \/>\n6. O discu\u0163ie cu un angajat poate fi repozi\u0163ionat\u0103 astfel: \u00een loc s\u0103 \u00eei fie repro\u015fat acestuia c\u0103&nbsp; r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00een urm\u0103 cu munca, ar trebui s\u0103 i se spun\u0103: \u201eCeea ce trebuie s\u0103 se \u00eent\u00e2mple pentru ca tu s\u0103 excelezi este&#8230;\u201d<br \/>\n6. Oferi\u0163i toate detaliile de care este nevoie: conversa\u0163iile trebuie s\u0103 fie directe \u015fi oneste; aduna\u0163i perspectivele altor colegi care au observat aceste comportamente pentru a v\u0103 asigura c\u0103 oferi\u0163i claritate.<br \/>\n7. \u00cenlocui\u0163i cuv\u00e2ntul \u201edar\u201d cu \u201e\u015fi\u201d: \u201eAi avut idei bune, dar data viitoare poate vei fi mai atent legat de durata implement\u0103rii acesteia\u201d cu \u201eAi avut idei bune \u015fi data viitoare ar trebui s\u0103 fii mai atent \u00een ceea ce prive\u015fte durata implement\u0103rii acestora\u201d.<br \/>\n8. Oferi\u0163i remedii &#8211; \u015fi speran\u0163\u0103: este important s\u0103 le oferi\u0163i celorlal\u0163i un plan de remediere &#8211; acesta ar putea include sesiuni suplimentare de mentorat sau training. S\u0103 le oferi\u0163i speran\u0163\u0103 &#8211; spre exemplu, prin a le spune c\u0103 o m\u0103rire de salariu este \u00een continuare posibil\u0103, c\u0103 pot continua s\u0103 evolueze \u00een func\u0163ie, este de ajutor. Evita\u0163i s\u0103 oferi\u0163i speran\u0163\u0103 fals\u0103 &#8211; aceasta poate d\u0103una at\u00e2t angajatului, c\u00e2t \u015fi reputa\u0163iei liderului.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nu este niciodat\u0103 confortabil s\u0103 fii de orice parte a unei conversa\u0163ii dificile &#8211; totu\u015fi, s\u0103 po\u0163i spune cuiva ve\u015fti nepl\u0103cute este o abilitate necesar\u0103, mai ales pentru liderii din mediul de business. Cheri Torres, un coach de leadership de business, autorul c\u0103r\u0163ii \u201eConversations Worth Having\u201d, spune c\u0103 exist\u0103 dou\u0103 mari gre\u015feli pe care le [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[510],"tags":[7172,235,21099,80,32777],"class_list":["post-171501","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-actualitate","tag-actiuni","tag-business","tag-discutie","tag-refuz","tag-speranta"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/171501","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=171501"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/171501\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=171501"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=171501"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bm.dev.synology.me\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=171501"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}